Compassionate Family
Law Built On Advocacy.
Divorce, custody, support, and other family law issues are turning points that affect your children, your finances, and your future.
At Selje Law, you get a partner who takes the time to understand your situation and fights for the outcome you need.
Compassionate Family Law Built On Advocacy.
Divorce, custody, support, and other family law issues are turning points that affect your children, your finances, and your future.
At Selje Law, you get a partner who takes the time to understand your situation and fights for the outcome you need.
Compassionate Family Law Your Family Deserves.
Divorce, custody, support, and other family law issues are turning points that affect your children, your finances, and your future.
At Selje Law, you get more than legal advice. You get a partner who takes the time to understand your situation and fights for the outcome you need.
Family Law Is Personal.
Your Attorney Should Be Too.
Selje Law regularly handles cases involving custody disputes, support, property division, protective orders, and other family law situations where emotions run high.
We bring clarity and steadiness to cases that feel overwhelming for clients.
Focused experience in emotionally complex family law matters
Proven handling of military divorce and military-specific legal considerations
Child-centered approach in custody and support matters
Thoughtful handling of sensitive and high-conflict situations
Realistic expectations and honest counsel at every stage
Meet Your Attorney
Originally from Germany, Barbara Selje built her life around family, resilience, and service long before pursuing her legal career.
She met her husband, a U.S. Army helicopter pilot, while he was stationed in Fulda, Germany, and their military life eventually brought them to Williamsburg, Virginia, where they raised their three children.
After becoming a Gold Star family in 2011, Barbara chose to pursue a lifelong dream of becoming an attorney. She graduated magna cum laude from the College of William & Mary and earned her Juris Doctor from the University of Richmond School of Law.
Through her work with the University of Richmond’s Family and Children Legal Clinic and the Legal Aid Society of Eastern Virginia, she gained extensive experience helping families through difficult legal challenges.
Barbara is a zealous advocate, passionate about helping families navigate life’s toughest transitions with compassion, strength, and clear guidance.
How We Help Williamsburg Families
Divorce
Ending a marriage is never easy. Virginia requires specific grounds and waiting periods before a divorce can be finalized. We help you understand your options, protect your interests, and work toward a resolution, including separation agreements, property division, and settlement negotiations.
Military
Divorce
Divorce is complicated. Military divorce adds layers most attorneys never learn. Federal laws govern how retirement pay is divided, whether you keep TRICARE, and how deployment affects custody. As a military spouse and Gold Star widow, Barbara understands these challenges firsthand.
Custody &
Visitation
Nothing matters more than your relationship with your children. Virginia courts decide custody based on what serves your child's best interests. We help you build a strong case for the parenting arrangement that protects your bond and provides stability, including legal custody,
physical custody, and joint legal/physical custody.
Child & Spousal Support
Support calculations follow Virginia guidelines, but the numbers do not always tell the full story. We make sure the court sees your real financial picture and fight for arrangements that are fair to you and sustainable for your family for spousal support, child support, and paternity.
Divorce
Ending a marriage is never easy. Virginia requires specific grounds and waiting periods before a divorce can be finalized. We help you understand your options, protect your interests, and work toward a resolution, including separation agreements, property division, and settlement negotiations.
Military
Divorce
Divorce is complicated. Military divorce adds layers most attorneys never learn. Federal laws govern how retirement pay is divided, whether you keep TRICARE, and how deployment affects custody. As a military spouse and Gold Star widow, Barbara understands these challenges firsthand.
Custody &
Visitation
Nothing matters more than your relationship with your children. Virginia courts decide custody based on what serves your child's best interests. We help you build a strong case for the parenting arrangement that protects your bond and provides stability, including legal custody, physical custody, and joint legal/physical custody.
Child &
Spousal Support
Support calculations follow Virginia guidelines, but the numbers do not always tell the full story. We make sure the court sees your real financial picture and fight for arrangements that are fair to you and sustainable for your family for spousal support, child support, and paternity.
Divorce
Ending a marriage is never easy. Virginia requires specific grounds and waiting periods before a divorce can be finalized. We help you understand your options, protect your interests, and work toward a resolution, including separation agreements, property division, and settlement negotiations.
Military
Divorce
Divorce is complicated. Military divorce adds layers most attorneys never learn. Federal laws govern how retirement pay is divided, whether you keep TRICARE, and how deployment affects custody. As a military spouse and Gold Star widow, Barbara understands these challenges firsthand.
Custody &
Visitation
Nothing matters more than your relationship with your children. Virginia courts decide custody based on what serves your child's best interests. We help you build a strong case for the parenting arrangement that protects your bond and provides stability, including legal custody,
physical custody, and joint legal/physical custody.
Child & Spousal Support
Support calculations follow Virginia guidelines, but the numbers do not always tell the full story. We make sure the court sees your real financial picture and fight for arrangements that are fair to you and sustainable for your family for spousal support, child support, and paternity.
Protective
Orders
If you or your children are in danger, your safety comes first. Virginia offers emergency, preliminary, and permanent protective orders to shield you from harm. We act quickly to help you secure the protection you need.
Adoption
Growing your family through adoption is a life-changing decision. Virginia adoption law involves consent requirements, waiting periods, and court procedures that must be followed precisely. We guide you through every step so you can focus on welcoming your child home.
Estate
Planning
Protecting your family means planning for the future. We help you create a plan that fits your family's needs and ensures your wishes are followed, including guardianship and trust will, pourover will, power of attorney, and advanced medical directive.
Protective
Orders
If you or your children are in danger, your safety comes first. Virginia offers emergency, preliminary, and permanent protective orders to shield you from harm. We act quickly to help you secure the protection you need.
Adoption
Growing your family through adoption is a life-changing decision. Virginia adoption law involves consent requirements, waiting periods, and court procedures that must be followed precisely. We guide you through every step so you can focus on welcoming your child home.
Estate
Planning
Protecting your family means planning for the future. We help you create a plan that fits your family's needs and ensures your wishes are followed, including
guardianship and trust will,
pourover will, power of attorney, and advanced medical directive.
Why Choose Selje Law
Strong Legal Advocacy
Each Step of the Way
Family law issues are complex and require a strong advocate in your corner. I am dedicated to listening to your unique challenges and zealously advocating for your best interests.
Settlement if Possible,
Litigation if Necessary
Not every divorce or family law case needs to go to trial. We pursue negotiated solutions that save you time, money, and stress. But when the other side is not reasonable, we are fully prepared to advocate for you in court.
Real Experience With
Military Families
Attorney Selje, a military spouse and Gold Star widow, understands the challenges military families face, including deployments, PCS moves, retirement benefits, and survivor benefits.
Testimonials
real reviews from our clients.
"My experience with Attorney Selje was exceptional. She is knowledgeable, intelligent, confident, passionate, and always on top of communication."
-Patrick H.
"Very thorough. Excellent communication and fair fees.
-Russell L.
How does Selje Law approach divorce cases?
Selje Law helps clients understand their options under Virginia law, protects their interests in property division, and works toward resolutions that allow them to move forward. When possible, the firm pursues negotiated settlements, but is fully prepared to advocate in court when necessary.
How are custody and visitation decisions handled?
Virginia courts decide custody based on the best interests of the child. Selje Law helps clients build strong cases for parenting arrangements that protect the parent-child bond and provide stability, including legal custody, physical custody, and joint custody arrangements.
What makes military divorce different?
Military divorce involves additional legal considerations, including federal laws governing retirement benefits, TRICARE eligibility, and how deployments or PCS moves affect custody. Selje Law brings focused experience and firsthand understanding of these military-specific issues.
Can Selje Law help with urgent safety concerns?
Yes. Selje Law assists clients with emergency, preliminary, and permanent domestic protective orders when safety is at risk, acting quickly to help secure the protection clients and their children need.
Contact Us
Finding the right firm to represent your family can be overwhelming. Let's talk about your case and the best way to proceed for your situation.
